“I flunked the test.”
“We lost the game.”
“He turned me down.”
“I’m devastated. Simply devastated.”
When was the last time you experienced an event that made you feel as if the world was coming to an end for you? It seemed like a big deal at the time, but time has healing powers. In fact, time can also provide much-needed perspective. I’ll bet this wasn’t the first time the world came to an end for you. You may have received a lower grade than you expected, been cut from the team, broken up with your boyfriend or girlfriend, or made a complete fool of yourself in front of friends. . . . It probably felt like the weight of the world was on your shoulders. The question is, how do you feel about that incident today? It’s probably not even a blip on your radar screen.
I’m not saying these experiences aren’t important or that you overreacted at the time, but things often look different in retrospect. In fact, many of these “world-ending” events don’t even matter after five years. Chances are, knowing that would have saved you a lot of anxiety at the time. So what can we learn from this?
It’s not always the end of the world
It’s not personal. Unfortunate events are a part of life. Remember, failing at something doesn’t make you a failure.
Common sense. It’s easy to get caught up in the moment. Instead, take a deep breath and put your emotion on the back burner. It’ll give your brain a voice in the matter, too.
Know what matters. Not everything in life is equal; different situations require varying levels of emphasis and importance.
Perspective. There’s a difference between disappointment and a life-changing event. Ask yourself: Will this experience matter in five years?
Perfection. There’s nothing wrong with demanding perfection of yourself, but be a realist. Even on a perfect day, there may be clouds in the sky.
Remember . . . your phone will die; your car will get dented; your friend will disappoint you; you won’t win every business opportunity or receive every promotion. And, while it may seem like your world is coming to an end, life marches on. It always does. I’m not saying these matters are trivial or that life is always fair. But it’s important to keep things in perspective. One day you’re going to look back on these events and say it didn’t matter that much in the scheme of things. In fact, you may even say that it happened for a reason. If you had known that at the time, it would have made the situation a lot easier to swallow. Right? The truth is, it wasn’t really the day your world came to an end. In fact, it may have marked a whole new beginning for you.