Some people measure success by the wealth they’ve accumulated, the power they’ve attained, or the status they’ve achieved. Yet, even though they’ve reached success beyond their wildest dreams, they still have an empty feeling — something is missing from their life.
In order to fill that void and be completely fulfilled in life, their soul may be searching for something more.
Here are a few scenarios that describe this emptiness:
Lonely at the top. I was obsessed with making it to the top. When I arrived, however, I learned that it wasn’t all it was cracked up to be. I now realize that my continual pursuit of advancement seriously compromised my ability to spend quality time with my family and build meaningful relationships with friends.
Enough is never enough. One of the ways I kept score in life was to compare my toys to my neighbors’ toys. It felt good for a while, but each “high” just didn’t last. I now know better. I realized that if I’m not careful, the game of life can become an obsession — there will always be people with more and less than I have.
Sold my soul. I would have given anything to be a success. I lied, cheated, and sold my soul to the devil. I understand now that although I’ve obtained fame and fortune, people don’t like or respect me. Knowing what I’ve done, I find it hard to live with myself, and others seem to agree.
All work and no play. I was always the first person in the office and the last one to leave. While my business life has been a roaring success, my personal life has been a disaster. I realize there’s got to be more to life. Balance matters, and I must be the one to make it happen.
Pleased everyone except myself. I never made a move without first seeking the approval of my friends and family. They’re happy, but I’m miserable. I now appreciate that my opinion matters too, and counting on others to make up my mind for me is just a cop-out. After all, it’s my life and I own it.
Lived in the future rather than the present. I spent much of my life thinking about what I was going to do tomorrow. Now that I’m older, I’ve come face-to-face with the reality that my days won’t go on forever; I wish I had learned to savor every special moment as it happened.
If any of these scenarios sound familiar to you, it may be time for a course correction.
The purpose of life is a perpetual question that has intrigued mankind since the beginning of human existence. Success in life begins with purpose. When you achieve clarity, you’ll gain a new perspective on your life. When you find your purpose, you’ll feel good about who you are, what you stand for, and where you’re heading. When you discover your purpose, an inner peace will replace the need to seek approval from others. And friends and family will begin to sense a new you: someone who is happy, motivated and self-assured — a person with a mission. People will say that there’s something really special about you. And, they’ll be right! As Robert Byrne, author, once said, ‘The purpose of life is a life of purpose.’ It isn’t too late to start.”
This is adapted from Follow Your Conscience: Make a Difference in Your Life & in the Lives of Others By Frank Sonnenberg © 2014 Frank Sonnenberg. All rights reserved.
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William Leighty says
Frank, you are spot on with your wisdom and encouragement. I just picked up your book “Managing With A Conscience” and I am excited with the power of your words….I’ve have always lead with the principles you describe but yet, I have often found myself standing alone and often frustrated with why we don’t have more leaders that share the same philosophy. I look forward to growing and being encouraged by your work!
frank Sonnenberg says
Thanks for your kind words William. I appreciate it.
I believe there are plenty of leaders who embrace the philosophy that I espouse. Our challenge is in attracting more leaders with conscience. It’s win-win for everyone. Also, thanks for ordering Managing With a Conscience. Please let me know what you think.
Have a wonderful New Year.
Jobarteh Fofana says
Thank you very much for a very thoughtful and insightful article. I have learned fantastic valuable lessons from this article. Is a great post and I valued it immensely. Once again, thank you for your valued contribution to advancement of knowledge.
Frank Sonnenberg says
My pleasure Jobarteh. I’m glad you like it.
Thanks for taking the time o write.