It’s better to give than to receive. But some folks never got that message. Instead, they claim they’re in no position to give. You’ve got to wonder if they’re being truthful or if it’s just a convenient excuse. In any case, generosity doesn’t require giving lavish gifts or money; it can simply mean giving of oneself. You don’t have to be rich to give; your gift can be as simple as a smile.Therefore, it isn’t a question of whether you’re able to give, it’s whether you will give. Are you generous?
The Joy of Giving
Generous people know that you gain so much satisfaction from giving. The only limiting factor is your imagination. There are many ways to give. For example, you can give someone: advice, encouragement, appreciation, trust, hope, an opportunity, your opinion, your undivided attention, a shoulder to cry on, and of course, respect. The point is that the opportunity to give is endless.
It’s not what you give, but rather that you give.
10 Ways to Show That You Care
It doesn’t require an arm and a leg to be generous. Here are 10 guidelines to get you started:
- Give from your heart. Give out of kindness, not obligation.
- Give for no particular reason. Don’t wait for a special occasion. Every day is an opportunity to be generous.
- Give without being asked. Step up to the plate before someone makes a request of you. Surprise them with your kindness.
- Give any way you can. Give a little if you can’t give a lot. But remember, if giving that gift doesn’t hurt a little — you’re not giving enough.
- Give without strings attached. Give without expecting something in return. Your reward should not result in personal gain but in making others happy.
- Give of yourself. Lavish gifts are not a substitute for caring. Give of your time, talent, or expertise.
- Give to show that you care. Be available in times of need. Lend an ear or a shoulder to cry on.
- Give without creating dependency. Instill self-reliance. Teach someone “how to fish” rather than making them dependent on your benevolence.
- Give to those who need it most. There are people less fortunate than you. Make a difference in their life.
- Give without attracting attention. Be humble. Don’t make a spectacle out of your generosity.
Be Generous: The More You Give, the More You Receive
If you’re asking yourself what stops people from giving, the answer is simple. Some people are self-centered. They’re more interested in feeding their own ego than in nourishing someone else. Some folks claim they’re busy — busy focusing on their own needs. Others are simply selfish. They’d rather get something they don’t need than give to someone in need. What they fail to realize is that when you exude good energy, it often comes right back to you — full circle — like a boomerang. But the real reward is feeling good about yourself and knowing that you’re making a difference.
Be generous in your own special way. You don’t have to do something life changing to make a difference. Your gift need not come in a box. Your deed can be as simple as making someone feel special, reaching out to a lonely person, helping a troubled kid find the right path, or comforting a friend. It can take the form of giving someone confidence, slowing down to provide quality time to someone, or sharing an honest opinion. The result is that you’ll change the world one good deed at a time. What do you have to lose? Being generous doesn’t cost a penny.
Are You Generous?
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eula biezen says
Thank you once more for an inspiring article.
I have just started a campaign, to help bring relief to people in a foreign country and I did question my motivations as well as my methods to be of service and how this can make a difference in the long run.
My small efforts, could not bring about a radical political or economic change, and of course it does take of some material form, but the most valuable thing that can be offered is HOPE.
This is what has greater significance. HOPE in humanity.
Thank you for this wonderful article, and its timely arrival,
Frank Sonnenberg says
Thank you for your kind words and for your part in making a difference 🙂
I’d like to make two points. First, don’t discount your small effort. If everyone made a small contribution the result would be HUGE.
Second, some people discount the power of hope. I believe that expectations drive behavior. When you believe that something’s possible and you set your sights firmly on the prize, you’ve taken the first big step in making it a reality. Unfortunately, the converse is also true. Some people believe life isn’t fair and that the outcome is predetermined. These folks give up before they start.
As I say “if you believe you can’t…you won’t.”
Thanks for taking the time to write.
Al Boling says
Inspiring article. One way to “give” and have a life-changing impact on others is to donate blood or plasma. It’s done anonymously, and one pint can benefit three patients. During COVID, most blood banks are down more than 25% just because high schools and colleges are not in-person. Donate blood, save a life…
Frank Sonnenberg says
Wonderful suggestion, Al. Thanks so much for sharing!